When you’re getting a new job, it’s good to get some of your male co-workers to see you for a bit first.
That’s the idea behind the ‘Get Him to the Coffee Spot’ campaign, a new website that encourages male coworkers to show up to coffee spots on their company time to get “the attention” of a hot female colleague.
The idea is that if you get to the coffee spot and see a male cozier, he might start to feel like you might be a more attractive colleague than you might actually be, according to the site’s creator, Alex Caddell.
The site aims to teach male coxswains that they don’t need to be an object of lust to get attention from the woman who works there.
“We’re not saying this is the best way to get your coffee spot, but it’s certainly something we’d like to see, if we could do it,” Caddill told Mashable.
The project is inspired by a 2016 survey that found that men and women are getting more and more interested in each other’s company time.
According to a study by Harvard Business School’s Sloan Family School of Management, the desire for female attention has risen steadily since the late ’90s, and in 2017, it increased even further.
“The reason is that, for a variety of reasons, women have less time and less resources to be active in their personal lives,” says Caddel.
“And so we’re seeing a resurgence of interest in getting a guy to be a part of the female experience in their workplace.”
“We see the importance of being present in your workplace to be more effective and effective women are doing that in the workplace,” he continued.
“They’re doing it in the cafeteria, they’re doing that at home.”
“And if you’re a woman and you’re doing those things, you’re not being seen as an object, but as someone who is willing to help,” he added.
And the idea of getting some female coxsy attention is not new, Caddello noted.
“Back in the ’90’s, there was a survey that showed that women were less interested in men.
So, it was something that was in a survey,” he said.
And while there’s no reason to believe that women are becoming less interested, it does make for a more intriguing read for the women who might be thinking of starting a new career.
The website also offers advice for how to start a conversation with a coworker.
“I always say to people, if you have a problem, if there’s something you need to say to somebody, you can say it to them.
You don’t have to go through the whole process of being like, ‘Hey, I’m going to be there and I’m really happy to talk about it,'” he explained.
“You can say, ‘Hi, I have a question for you, I want to know if you’d like me to help you.'”
“And the best thing is, when you say, I’ve got a question, I can see what’s going on in your head, what’s the vibe that you’re going for and then I can actually be like, What’s going to work?”
“And I’ll go, ‘Great, then let’s start with that,'” he said, adding that a quick Google search on “coffee spots” will lead you to a list of locations.
“It’s a really good way to start that conversation,” he told Mashables.
“But, you know, if it’s like, there’s one place I’m gonna be, then it might not be a good idea.”
But there are a few caveats.
“When you’re talking about a coffee spot in the city, the first thing that you want to be sure to do is to check the weather forecast, and if it looks like rain, it might be OK,” he explained, but “you should also check your schedule because it might make you want your schedule to be less flexible.
And that’s really what you want.”
There are also plenty of things you can do to make sure your coffee is always the most inviting.
“There’s a lot of advice about getting your coffee to the right spot.
You can’t just sit at the coffee machine and wait for the coffee to be ready,” he noted.
That said, you might not have to do anything different for a regular coffee spot.
“That’s the only thing you have to be mindful of.
There’s no coffee machine in your office,” Cadsell said.
“So if you go to your coffee place and you look at your schedule, it looks very different.
But you’ll notice that there’s always the same amount of time that’s in your schedule.”